While breastfeeding, when did your cycle return?

Did you milk it for all it was worth? (breastfed or pumped)

Saturday, November 15, 2008

tell me about your bra...

Well...what I really want to know is--for you extended nursers out there...do you still wear a nursing bra?

We made it to a year...well, I have--Par still has another month (I started pumping on day one--but Par didn't get any milk (or anything for that matter until he was almost 6 weeks old)...Par still nurses a good bit...and if we are out and he is super tired, sometimes the Mommy Milk is the only thing that will calm him....We nurse maybe twice during the day when I am wearing clothes--and most of the time I am at home and it is when I am putting him down for a nap...otherwise, I'm in my nightgown for his morning and nighttime feedings...So I am curious...is there a point when I can return to a regular bra? Is this wishful thinking? Recently (in the past month) I have stopped worrying about what I am wearing--I don't limit the wardrobe to BF-friendly clothes--I wear what I want. So what about the bra? What have you done?

Please take a look at Par's 1st Birthday pics here...we had a great time!

So I must admit...now that Par is year...I am getting a lot of questions about nursing...I had people ask if he was BF up until about 6 months old...and then no one asked...now when they ask "how old is he" and I say "a year" they always follow up with "now he isn't still BF right?"...so what bothers me is the phrasing of the question. Why can't they say "is he still BF?" or "he's still BF, right?"--why such a negative posed question...not that I really care that much...I guess it just goes to show how extended BF still seems to be a tiny bit taboo still...
Only about 50% are surprised when I say that he is still BF...so I guess that is progress...
I do get a little tickled when I meet someone and we go through the above scenario and then they tell me why they stopped at 3 months or 6 months or whatever...almost as if they need to confess to someone to make them feel better...that confirms something to me...THE MORE SUPPORT YOU HAVE THE LONGER YOU ARE LIKELY TO BF!!! So if you are a BF of an infant and you want to BF for as long as your baby wants to...then surround yourself with good supporters and ignore those who have negative things to say about it...it is definitely worth it.

6 comments:

Cindy said...

I never used any nursing clothes other than bras. I just pulled up my shirt and let her have at it.

When she got to be about 10 months old and started nursing less often I switched to wearing sports bras. I'm small-chested and could just pull the sports bra down whenever she wanted to nurse. The sports bras were a lot more comfortable/supportive than my nursing bras were.

Ole Miss Mom said...

I just used a nursing bra in the beginning. With Lillian, they "leveled out" quicker and actually seemed smaller than with the other two kids - even though I had just as much milk. Then I just used my regular bras.....or sports bras. I didn't have any nursing clothes either...though that might have helped out some times...maybe next time I'll invest! :-)

Miss Mommy said...

I so agree about the bfing support. I am now bfing my second baby and went to 13 months with my first. I am constantly going to groups or surrounding myself with other bfing moms. I wore a nursing bra the whole time but in the end tended more towards nursing tanks. They are nice for the winter months too - keeps things less breezy. :)

Zandra said...

I switched to a regular bra when Em was only nursing a couple of times a day. I did, however, choose a soft cotton style that was easy to maneuver. I am proud of you for still BF!! We went for about 18 months. I was willing until she decided she was done. At that point(18 months-ish) we were down to bedtime only, and one day she just quit. It really made weaning easy. She simply did it herself. Now the pacy, a totally different story!! I simply decided that it didn't matter what other people thought! I was doing what was best for my baby, and I am glad I did!!

Miss Mommy said...

This is where I first heard of Not Me's. Love your blog. I tagged you, hope you don't mind.
http://www.askmissmommy.com/2008/12/tag.html

TuTu's Bliss said...

I love camisoles with built in shelf bras..but my titties are more like single serving creamers than buy by the gallon. If I was a gallon girl I would probably still sport my nursing bra. I love your blog..I just finished up a breastfeeding special on my blog. There are several artists on Etsy that showcase nursing mothers in their art.